Stress is an unavoidable part of life in many and often it is part of the current professional model. There’s only one thing: learn to deal with the everyday stress better. What charges can be avoided, and how can I prevent that is out of the congestion charge? Stress management help to find the balance of life again.
The word stress sounds like a cool head and rational planning – a misunderstanding. After all, who wants to change his daily routine, which immediately met with a huge obstacle: the force of habit?
Change habits:
Many of our practices, we place only on the day because we’re used to do this or that. For example harried morning run to train, eat a sandwich for lunch quickly in a standing position, in the evening to turn on the television and open a beer – we not think about it, we just do it. Behavior patterns are basically templates that save us the effort to think again. What would be my turn? What are the arguments for what about it? Habits are energy-saving shortcuts.
How are they? It’s simple: We learn it by doing something over and over again. After 30 to 50 repetitions, it sits – a behavior, whether good or bad for us to become a habit. Means for those who want to change his life, the reverse: It takes a while to break up the old behavior patterns and new ones have emerged. And in this time you need a lot of extra energy to motivate yourself again and again to negotiate again the pros and cons with it. Only after 30 to 50 repetitions, you get to silence the inner voice that laments: Should this really be?
Setting priorities:
Our forces are limited. Nevertheless, we often want to “take everything” – the first step to overload. Prioritize sounds reasonable and easy. Share a misunderstanding, because priority is not to say: postpone one thing and doing another. Setting priorities is “to learn to say no” and to make decisions, even if a decision involves a decision for something against something else. Setting priorities can be painful, in retrospect prove to be (serious) decisions but often also as a relief. What are the priorities? Although there may be no single answer – the results of happiness research can provide at least a few suggestions. Then we should just by the most stubbornly pursued goal, namely the increase in income, expect little – to increase their income on an average, the existence of captive be raising the level of personal satisfaction is not practical.
Time and Labor Management:
Stress often arises from the discrepancy between goals set too high, and (limited) own resources. This also applies to the working time. Who runs every 24 hours with the day did not get along, must set priorities and improve their work efficiency.
Analyze the daily routine and find the black holes, where time escapes without bringing anything? Frequent “time wasters” are hours of e-mail letter in the workplace and the television in the evening.
Eliminate sources of interference. Efficient operation becomes difficult. The solutions are not always easy. Suppose doing Work from Home Moms job can practice not to go into creative hours on the phone and let the answering machine. In the office, it is more difficult: for example, time management trainer recommended to accept phone calls while, but later recall and retrieve e-mails only two or three times a day. Only in the group to tackle the marathon session, which in many positions 50 and consumes more percentage of working time. Nevertheless, here too it is worthwhile to try to demand improvements, and with other stakeholders.
Motivation is needed for improvement. Because, who likes to do something it usually does so faster and better than someone who is forcing to do. The crucial step towards greater time efficiency is therefore the self-motivation. Again, the solutions are as varied as the problem such as eliminating conflict in the work, skills development, and possibly even consider a job move (“migrate better than respond”).Work effectively is always something to do with strategy. What can I do to avoid getting bogged me? Can I delegate work? How and where can I organize support? How do I manage to overcome blockages?
Resolve conflicts:
The interests of people can not be identical – even parents and children often pursue different objectives, and spouses always have their own agenda – an agenda that also varies in each stage of life. Confronting conflict is thus a key to social skills. This is also at work – successful cooperation and teamwork is not created by the fact that they always supported the plans of others and always does what is expected of you. Team spirit means to engage in the group for such a solution that takes into account its own interests.
Conflict researchers assume that the real root of most conflicts, conflicts of interest are easily comprehensible to outsiders. What will the balance of interests is often difficult or impossible, are the injuries that result from the conflict or in conflict management. Conflict resolution skills are therefore several elements.
Discard ballast:
Simplify your life (Simplify your life) sounds like a great relief to throw: everything superfluous from him to put everything on the road, which has accumulated in the course of life and purify the life. Even if you throw (unfortunately not all) can do what one hand, depressed (and therefore the concept often overused), by Simplify, you can avoid a lot of stress: Expenditure (put to the test “Do we really need a second car?”), habits questioning (“Why do we need to go out to eat on their birthday?”), critically examine relationships (“Why do we always do the same thing?”).When Simplify is no different to real as in a tidy up: Who has no clear focus, will not be able to be separated from ballast. To that extent also the most crucial – and difficult – the first step: setting priorities.
Positive thinking:
Anyone who feels stressed out is flooded by negative thoughts and pessimistic expectations. “Think positive!” Strikes one as rather than ridicule it as a way out. Nevertheless, even if it seems someone like the Council to consider “on its own bootstraps to”.
How positively or negatively as we see ourselves and evaluate has to do with our physical attributes and abilities rather little – nice people see themselves not as critical as less beautiful, and even professional models usually have a lot of fault with him. We orient ourselves with our self after all not on an absolute scale, but in what psychologists call the horizon of expectation – just the expectations of us whispering “rating in our heads.”
Positive thinking can change your viewpoint (“What have I done anything today” instead of “What is left today are everything again”). Positive thinking is to say, in effect, be nice to yourself and respect for themselves to have. It is also to motivate themselves and to formulate positive out.
Positive thinking also means expect good from others. Others see positive rather than negative. Psychologists know from many experiments: It influenced others through his expectations. A casually overheard “This creates the never!” Can ruin an “I dare you to!” However, move mountains. This force can also be used in relationships!
Seek professional help:
Chronic stress is not insignificant, but may be the cause of profound health problems. But find out from the constant stress can exceed the capabilities of the individual. For constant stress paralyzed, and he often creates enough other psychological and social problems standing in the way of a solution – from anxiety disorders on substance abuse to dysfunctional relationships or conflicts on the job. So far, one should not let it come, especially as many offers of help are free of charge, at least at the beginning (more details) Section psychiatric and psychosomatic disorders.
But who needs professional help? – Maybe it’s good to talk about first of all with a partner, a good friend, pastor, family doctor or a psychotherapist. To an outsider is sometimes surprisingly quickly realized where the core of the problem lies. Doctors may also refer specifically to a counseling center or an appropriate therapist. And even if it turns out that professional help is not the right approach, it just feels good to talk in a protected part of his worries, and perhaps take some valuable information to take home.
We can only help us itself is any kind of successful consulting, training or therapy “can only do” one thing to trigger learning, to motivate us to adopt a new view of things from this new perspective, and to tackle the challenges better.